I’ve updated my Terms of Service with some clear-cut policies around cancellations that finally make sense! If you use this site and particularly if you book my services you agree to my TOS, so it pays to have a look at them. They are all, I think, fair and reasonable and are the result of much thought and more than a few experiences. I’m a “get it all down and then edit” guy, so here’s some thoughts that did NOT get finalized under “how to book”. It makes me laugh to read it because it’s so not “professional” in its tone… but polish isn’t everything, and sometimes a little dash of impropriety in the right place does a fellow good….
… If we exchange more than a few emails or texts
and there is no booking materializing, trust me when I say that, though I value your thinking of me, I will rapidly lose interest. I’ve seen it all and I will know within five communications whether or not you are serious about booking my services.
It’s not that I don’t have the time. I have lots of time. I just choose to spend it in more rewarding ways than corresponding with someone who thinks they are one of the rewarding ways, but for whatever reason is determined to put off making an actual appointment.
I can’t help you in any in-depth way if you are finding it hard to come to terms with the fact that you might be bisexual or gay. I’m not a psychiatrist. I’m a great listener, and coach, but I have no desire to get out of my depth and I know the point beyond which those depths lie as surely as if they were signposted in neon.
If you are really suffering from issues relating to your sexual orientation, find a sympathetic and trained counselor or other mental health professional, and today rather than tomorrow, because you are suffering not from any “illness”, but rather from the pressures of an unsympathetic, monolithic and judgmental society. I want and need you to know that there is nothing wrong with you, but I am not qualified to guide you to that knowledge if you don’t feel it naturally.
However, I will support you in any way possible that lies within my experience and expertise, that doesn’t involve “rescuing” (doing the work for you), and that falls within my mandate as a living, breathing human being who will not see another human being suffer unnecessarily…